I have been Coaching for 10 years now and have approx have had more than 200 people in the chair(s) in front of me. A lot of patterns emerge slowly but surely. It strikes me more and more that the lack of responsibility is the core of the many pains in peoples lives. It is a general human condition to shy away from walking the road with open eyes.
When you have a problem – this may be love, health, money, career etc. You want to be done with it. And get to the finish line. And that is exactly why you still struggle with the same problems.
Six years ago
I took a very courageous decision to move to another country and start a new company with little preparation or thought. Back then I found my self to be very strong and courageous. I simply took the jump with both feet so to speak.
That “courageous decision” cost me a whole year of hurt and no pay for a whole year. In the end I succeeded and the company lived. Later I understood that my decision and action was not courageous – it was absolutely in the lack of courage. It was a blind decision. I just took a wild decision and took no responsibility.
AND that is exactly what so many people do; especially with love. They just make the jump and hope for the best.
It is all about the inches – and walking the road with open eyes.
Trick is to win one inch at the time – and do it with open eyes. You make a small progress all the time and never have any taboos or anything that you don’t want to look at. Courage is to stay with your emotions; say them out loud – and win yourself over step by step.
That is how you make progress and take ownership. This is how you create real and lasting progress. One inch at the time.
Any Given Sunday translation
In the movie Any Given Sunday; Al Pacino gives this legendary speech. (It is originally not made for this movie; but he does it so very well. Very American, I know… forgive me for posting this).
Hell = The ego world as it is.
Inch = Authentic moment
Team = You and the universe.
A guy = God.
Football = Whatever you do.
/Mads H. Bonke.
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